Let’s talk compatibility. It is entirely possible to share the same life values, philosophy or career, and still not have chemistry. Personal life experience, hobbies and goals, may simply not mesh. Just because you find that a man isn’t your cup of tea, doesn’t mean he’s a bad guy. I once had coffee with a gentleman who told me that he worked from sun up to sun down, had dinner and went to bed. Six days a week. He had never traveled far from home and didn’t care to start now. Traveling is a way of life for me, so a shared work ethic wasn’t enough. He was a decent person, but definitely not for me.
The man who couldn’t stop talking about his military special ops and dropping names of high level politicians may have been trying to impress me, but it had the opposite effect. I’m military, political, and always interested in listening to veterans tell of their experiences. But, there are more aspects to life than just being a badass. I admire all the good he has done, but we were definitely not compatible.

One man’s actions totally melted my heart. I’m not sure it would have had the same effect on all women, but what he did spoke volumes to me about his character. We had been dating for a short time. One day we were talking on the phone and I told him I wanted to carry a concealed weapon. I was weighing my options concerning weapons, holsters, etc., as I had never carried a weapon in this manner. The next day he came to see me and took off his weapon, belt and holster. He put them on me and started explaining different options I could consider. He wanted me to know what it felt like so I could get an idea of what would work for me. He wasn’t being a know-it-all or trying to show what a ‘big man’ he was. He was educating me and being patient. He was showing that he cared about my safety.

There are men I greatly admire whom I would never consider as a partner. They are good men, just not for me. So when you are working through your criteria for a mate, there’s no reason to trash someone just because they aren’t right for YOU. You’ll be surprised how many real friends you can make on the journey of finding the partner of your dreams.

Standing With France?

Student officers display a US giant national flag on the Trocadero square with the Eiffel tower in the background during a solemn tribute to the victims of the 9/11 attacks on September 11, 2011 in Paris. Several commemorations are held in France today to mark the 10th anniversary of the 9/11 attacks which killed almost 3,000 people in NYC and Washington and plunged the US into an era of war. AFP PHOTO / FRED DUFOUR (Photo credit should read FRED DUFOUR/AFP/Getty Images)

I am not standing with France. I AM standing for civilized mankind. You know what else I am? I’m a human being who is sick and tired of the carnage; of the inability of world and local leaders to identity the real problems; of total inaction by those tasked with defense of the citizenry. I mourn the innocent dead and I hate those who murdered them. I’ve stood with Israel, France, Boston, Fort Hood, Tennessee. What does ‘stand with’ even mean? Sure, we sympathize. Then what?

We are at war. We are at war with Iran and several other nations who support Islamic jihad. World leaders know who is responsible. Yes, they know. But, they will not act to eradicate the threat. After each act of jihad, the propaganda machines go into overdrive to convince people that it was an isolated event or that it was perpetrated by governments to gain more control over the people (lovely conspiracy theories).
Those who still have brain cells intact know this war has been going on a long time. Islamic jihadists have waged a very long and orchestrated attack against civilization. They are emboldened by those who refuse to identify them and fail to mount a proper defense against them.

The fight has already come to our doorstep. September 11, 2001, Fort Hood, the military recruiting stations and Boston; strangers stalking military families near their homes; a proliferation of mosques/Islamic Learning Centers around the country; our nation’s courts deliberating on the legality of allowing Sharia Law (totally unConstitutional, by the way);and Hamtramk, Michigan, now has an all-Muslim city council. If you know nothing of these things, it’s time you learned.

The government has the job of defending the citizens against enemy attacks. They have failed in a spectacular fashion. So what do we Americans do right now?

1) Buy guns and ammo. Learn how to use them. Carry them.

2) Call and email every one of your elected representatives, from your mayor to your Congressman, and let them know you will not allow Invasion by Immigration to happen in your town or state. One person CAN make a difference, so don’t tell me it won’t matter if you call. If you don’t call, I can guarantee that you will forever know in your heart that you didn’t even try to save your country, your freedom and your way of life. One call. One email.

3) Keep living. And loving. And caring. We don’t get this time back. It IS possible to fight evil and live happily at the same time. There are a lot of us fighting for this country and the principles of Individual Rights. No one person has to fight alone every waking moment. I’m certainly not asking anyone to do that. I’m just asking that you sign up for a shift or perform a few tasks.

Thanks for listening.